When a relationship breaks down, whether is it your decision or not, it is difficult. With a huge change like that comes an array of emotions.
For some, a small break is all both sides need to get some perspective. Sometimes they will even begin to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Other times, unfortunately, the break is permanent.
But always remember, no matter how long has passed there is always room for reconciliation, if done the right way and you both want it.
Here are some small and simple steps to get the ball rolling;
Forgiveness
The first step in any broken relationship is to let go of the pain and forgive. This doesn’t mean that what the other person did is forgotten, or that they didn’t hurt you. It doesn’t even mean that what they did was not wrong.
What it does mean is that you are letting go of pain and anger and blame. Forgiveness is incredibly powerful, and it is almost freeing. It will let you see things a little clearer too.
Find out the real issue
Often times when a relationship breaks down, it is not usually about what somebody did or said but more about a bigger issue. Try to dig a little deeper and see what the underlying issue is for both of you. Only then with a fresh view of things can you try to find some resolution.
Try to remember the good
If you have had a long friendship/relationship with this person, chances are they have some good points! Try to remember them and focus on that.
Forgiveness and understanding may come a little easier if you remember why they were a part of your life to begin with.
Get some help
If something major has happened and you really need some unbiased advice, you should talk to someone. Sometimes advice from a stranger will give you a different perspective on things.
Try a counsellor or even a helpline to talk a few things through with no judgement and no personal connection to either of you.
Be the bigger person
If you are the one who has hurt your loved one, be the bigger person. Apologise and remember why you love them. Tell them what you did was wrong and that you are willing to listen to their side and mend any feelings that have been broken.
Remember life is too short
Which ever side of the grievance you lie, try to remember life is short. If you truly want to make amends do it. Forgive and forget. Likewise, if you have made your decision that there is no place for this person in your life accept that and move on. Life is too short to be anything but happy.